Tagged: women’s refuge

No refuge for some in IDAHO

Octavia Spitfire has been doing the hard yards putting together some facts on the extent to which women’s refuges in NZ “accommodate” trans women.

Yeah, nah, apparently.

I also share Octavia’s squeam about the IDAHO acronym.  A squeam born, I have to admit, largely out of knowing that even a year ago I would’ve totally accepted that sometimes you have to sacrifice accuracy for a nifty acronym.  The alternate meaning I’ve seen used, “yadda yadda Against Hate Of …” just doesn’t ring true to me, because you’re still saying IdaHO and that last syllable very strongly links to HOmophobia and I’m sure that link was one of the reasons the acronym was chosen.

After all, the top link for googling “idaho homophobia” (so as to weed out the poor Idaho tourism sites)? idahomophobia.com, which redirects to http://www.dayagainsthomophobia.org/, which has a nice friendly pink banner trumpeting “against homophobia and transphobia” which is grand just as long as you don’t look to the very top of your browser, where the page title misses one of those out.  Guess which.  Its origin story likewise.

That being said, blogging against homophobia and transphobia is a damn good cause and The Hand Mirror has done a roundup of the Kiwi blogosphere’s posts.  And of course it’s a massive reflection of privilege that I get to quibble about acronyms; but it’s an acronym that probably speak predictable volumes to the groups it leaves out.*


*Who likewise I don’t want to presume to speak for as a hetero cis woman.

#Mooreandme: make a difference offline too

Preach it, Sady:

No matter how much we can raise, it won’t be enough. But by donating, we demonstrate two things: First, that every rape survivor, every rape survivor, is exactly as important as this one WikiLeaks member (and keep in mind that the organization of WikiLeaks, no matter how you feel about it, could in fact keep going without Assange). Second, we communicate the same thing we’ve been saying all along, which is: If you are a rape survivor, we have your back. We care. We don’t care who comes at you, or how hostile the culture is to you, or who you are: We care about you, about your right to live in a world without rape culture or rape apologism, about dismantling rape culture and rape apologism, about providing you with the support and resources you need, about opposing those who would smear or endanger or hurt you, and just, basically, making sure that if you need a hand we will give it. We care about you.

We are going to keep pressuring Michael Moore (@MMFlint! #MooreandMe!) for an apology, an explanation, and a donation of $20,000. But we can help rape victims, too.

More background on #Mooreandme here and here.

I’m a privileged girl.  I have plenty of time to kill on the weekends watching hashtags and stirring up trolls online.

I can also make a difference in real life by contributing some of my disposable income – a byproduct of my unearned privilege as an educated, employed middle-class white person – to help support other victims of rape and sexual abuse.

I’m giving $40 to Wellington Rape Crisis.  And given the wonderful way that violence towards women and children tends to go up during the silly season, Women’s Refuge gets the same next payday.

I know many people cannot afford to contribute in this way – capitalism, ho! – but I can.  And if you can, let the world know that you too will stand up for rape victims and refuse to let them be shamed and silenced.

Emma Hart is my homegirl

And she has a fucking amazing piece up in honour of NZ Women’s Refuge’s Annual Appeal.  Warning: very likely triggering, depiction of domestic abuse.

Imagine you’re a woman. This will be easier for some of you than others, obviously. Enjoy the easy, it’s about to get harder.

It of course takes a mere page of comments before idiocy emerges, but you can’t win them all.

It is the Women’s Refuge Annual Appeal week, and I thoroughly encourage y’all to donate, because they do hugely important, heartbreaking work that needs to be done.

Sobering fact of the day in case anyone’s feeling callous or indifferent about abuse: their website has a “Hide My Visit” button.  Because there are women out there whose partners will search their browser history and attack them physically if they find evidence – like a visit to a Refuge website – that their victims might be looking for a way out.

Good news:  Clayton Weatherston was found guilty of murder.  To hell with you, bullshit “provocation” defence.  Anjum has some thoughts on the verdict.

Funny of the day:  Gordon Campbell eviscerates the appointment of Don Brash to the Government’s shiny new productivity forum. Wage gap with Australia? HOW COULD THAT HAVE HAPPENED?