Tagged: rape: it’s not fucking okay

Rape culture post of the day

Actual Stuff/The Press headline:

Man denies sex with ‘pretty hot’ 13-year-old

… I guess we should just be thankful that he’s arguing his innocence on the basis of the sex act rape not actually taking place, rather than relying on her “hotness” to override basic common sense and that pesky age-of-consent thing.

But he still had to mention she was “pretty hot”.  And Stuff still decided to put this in the headline of their story.

So we shouldn’t really be thankful at all.

H/T Lew on Twitter.

Support Wellington Rape Crisis on 12 April

Wellington Rape Crisis is looking for collectors for their Annual Appeal.  Visit their Facebook page for more info.

Last year WRC faced having to reduce its hours of operation, even as its rate of contacts had nearly doubled.  Then, they had to rely on positive-media-attention-seeking bribe money from Hell Pizza to re-open their doors.

They provide an absolutely critical service which saves women’s lives and which in any truly just society would be securely government funded.

I’ll have a $20 in my pocket for 12 April.  I bloody well hope you do too.

Random recommended reading

I just keep finding so many interesting articles on the dozens of blogs I follow that I’m thinking random recommended reading may become a thing, so I’m sticking it on a Monday after my warm fuzzies post because no one should have to do too much thinking on a Monday.

Help Family Planning with an international study on period pain.  You need to be:

  • Between 18 and 50 years old
  • Having regular periods with moderate period pain 
  • In good general health
  • Not already taking hormonal contraception or have an IUD
  • Prepared to use condoms during the study if contraception is required

The News With Nipples takes on the endless fight against bullshit passive-language reporting of sexual attacks (trigger warning for sexual assault.)

Best headline of all time / proof we’re living in the future: Giant NASA spider robots could 3D print lunar base

Mississippi douchebags protest against a school respecting a student’s gender identity.  Because letting a person meet the dress code already in place for their gender is exactly the same as not meeting the dress code at all, and that’s how you know it’s the trans student who wants “special treatment”.

HIV has been cured in a child for the first time.  YES.

Want a good reason to oppose a 4-year parliamentary term?  Check out who’s in favour, and why.

Melissa Harris-Perry on the real Harlem Shake and why white folk seriously need to stop mockingly appropriate shit which isn’t theirs.

How Nusreta Sivac has helped to get rape treated seriously as a war crime.

Justice Raynor Asher is a scumbag

[Trigger warning: rape, rape apologism]

Five young men pack-raped a woman in Rotorua.

But don’t worry:  they didn’t cause her any harm “more than what was inherent in multiple rapes with multiple offender” [emphasis mine].

They just caused the standard amount of harm you get with your average brutal gang-rape.

Hurrah!

I’m running low on righteous fury right now, so I’m going to hand things over to Catriona MacLennan:

Our legal system imposes penalties by comparing different cases, weighing their seriousness and making judgments as to factors that are both aggravating and mitigating.

However, the way in which this is done in rape cases trivialises the ordeals of victims and displays a lack of understanding of rape.

Judges need further education about rape – who the perpetrators are, what the impacts are on victims and how terrifying, humiliating and painful rape is.

But let’s be honest, it’d probably just be easier to execute all rapists.  Death is a nice, final kind of punishment, so we wouldn’t have to worry about whether the scumbags involve get a year less because it was only a two-hour ordeal, not two-hours-fifteen.

One Billion Rising

One in three women on the planet will be raped or beaten in her lifetime.

It’s not an even one-in-three across the board: if you’re a woman of colour, a trans woman, a woman with disability, you’re at far greater risk than more privileged women.

But we’re all still at risk.  And we’re all living our lives constantly conscious of that threat.

So today it’s V-Day, and it’s One Billion Rising.  Here’s the Facebook page for the Wellington event; here’s the website for the whole damn thing.

So what the fuck will you do today to stop violence against women?

NZ’s racist history deniers also love rape culture!

By a bizarre twist of boredom and schadenfreud over the holidays, I wound up on John Ansell’s godawfully laid out blog.

Matthew Dentith is my go-to guy for “why John Ansell is ridiculously full of shit“, and I’m certainly not keen on getting into the racist revisionist circlefucks that are the trademark of that terrifying narrow-margined (and narrow-minded! BURN!) sewer.

But something caught my eye.

Amidst a long, rambling, no-actual-citations-given-’cause-that-would-be-Marxist-or-something account of TERRIBLE HISTORICAL INACCURACIES!!!! PERPETRATED BY GUILTY WHITE LIBERALS!!!! there’s this fascinating little paragraph on Parihaka:

Were Parihaka women
raped, or did they go with
the troopers voluntarily?

Whether Parihaka women were actually raped will never be established for certain.

Because believing the accounts of women themselves – especially poor brown women – is radical.  And probably Marxist.  But definitely not Proper History.

But that many were rejected by their husbands when they returned from captivity suggests, to me at least, that they were only too ready to accept troopers’ advances.

Fantastic analysis!  Brilliant conclusions!  Irrefutable proposition!

Because men throughout history have never blamed their wives for getting raped.  Men throughout history have never rejected their wives after rape.  There is absolutely no historical precedent for entire societies treating rape victims like fucking pariahs, seeing the rape which someone else chose to commit as a stain on survivors’ souls.

Thank the gods we have brave, clever men like John Ansell (and his buddy Bruce Moon, whose words are the copypasta of Ansell’s post) to point out that men rejecting their wives totes proves their wives were sluts.

It’s just another courageous, forward-thinking insight which goes against the evil Marxist mainstream propaganda of modern New Zealand.

Now if anyone needs me, I’ll be over there throwing up a little.

It is just so damn difficult not to rape drunk people

[Trigger warning: rape, rape apologism]

Via Hoyden About Town, Skepchick Rebecca Watson has once again used terrible woman-powers to infuse otherwise innocent words with TERRIBLE MAN-HATING MEANING.

Last time it was “Hey guys, don’t do that.”  Or in FeministSpeak, “you are all rapists and you are never allowed to find true love by following women into elevators at 3am after they’ve expressly stated they’re going to bed.  Alone.”

This time it’s the slightly more complex “If you fucked someone who couldn’t consent, it was rape.

In FeministSpeak, that’s … well, “If you fucked someone who couldn’t consent, it was rape.”

Difficult concept, I know.

But of course Rebecca was instantly flooded with the wailings and gnashings of teeth of men who insisted that it couldn’t be rape because then how could they ever fuck incapacitated drunk chicks ever again?

Dudes:  it’s these priorities that make feminists super sceptical about putting trust in your entire gender.

If getting your end away is just that important to you – more important than taking half a second to consider the state of the person you’re getting your end away on – then yes, sorry, you’re a fucking rapist.

Let it sink in, feel the bad feelings, and then consider that if you’ve got a history of doing this – and some guys, as you can see on Rebecca’s post, brag about doing this – sure, you feel awful for having fucked up, but there’s another person – or multiple people – out there who were raped by you.

No magical fairy godfeminist is going to appear to reverse time and make that all go away if you @-reply her enough.  So I suggest the best thing you could do – if you’re actually a sincere nice guy who made a mistake – is never fucking do it again.

But you know what, actual Good Dudes out there?  I get the feeling you’re not actually the ones making the fuss.  You’re not the ones crying out at the injustice of having to get someone’s consent before fucking them.  Because you’re not so invested in rape culture, so desperate to propagate ideas which make all those rapes you haven’t committed continue to go unpunished.

What you can do?  Is call this shit out.  Because sadly, it’s going to have a lot more impact coming from a guy.

That’s patriarchy for you.

Time to help HELP

Following on from the funding shortfall at Wellington Rape Crisis, now it’s Auckland’s turn.

The HELP Foundation take 12,000 calls a year, and despite government promises to assist them … yep, they’re in trouble.  More info and account details to make a donation in this article – please note at this point the donation account is only open until 26 October.

On the cynical side of things, does anyone really think it’s coincidental that these two crises for organisations providing badly-needed services, in an area Good Decent People don’t like to talk about at the dinner table, have occurred so close together?  Take it away, NRT:

There’s an obvious pattern that emerges from these two incidents: the government doesn’t care about rape victims. These services cost a pittance, and yet there is no money for them. Why? Because unlike tax cuts, inflated CEO salaries, there’s no obvious benefit to rich white men like themselves.

Funding services for sexual assault victims also doesn’t fit the smile-and-wave idiom, nor provide a great opportunity to rark up people who think of themselves as “middle-class” about Not Getting Their Fair Share.

Can you imagine if our government – and that’s any government, not just the current one – treated sexual assault like benefit fraud?

Yep, we don’t get to be too smug about Todd Akin

Gordon Campbell covers some pretty good points from Alison McCulloch about why we here in NZ shouldn’t be too “oh, you stupid Americans” over Todd Akin’s “legitimate rape” comments:

Unlike in the US, where … thanks to the 1973 Supreme Court decision Roe v Wade, abortion is legal to around 24 weeks, our Crimes Act covers abortion at all stages of pregnancy, and abortion is only legal under a narrow set of grounds, of which rape is not one.

Check out Alison’s full column here.

So there you go, proud Kiwis skiting to your international friends about our liberal ways and great track record on progressive issues.  US abortion law is (in this one respect, at least) better than ours.  Want to know why?

The 1977 Royal Commission on abortion, on which our current laws are based, actually made an argument frighteningly similar to the one Todd Akin is now furiously backing away from.

In its report, the Commission noted, citing some questionable sources, that among a “considerable number of rape victims” there was a “very low incidence of pregnancy”.

Even worse, it went on to argue that if rape were a ground for abortion, women would simply lie about being raped.

How do you like that, New Zealanders?

Via NRT: Rich man’s justice

What sort of sentence do you get if you run someone over in a fit of road-rage, causing serious and lasting injury? Community service, if you’re a banker. But even better, you get the judge weighing in on your side, minimising your offending, and haranguing the media for taking an interest in the case

Sauce.

As with comedians, it seems if you’re rich and white enough, the humiliation of being charged with a crime which you actually did commit is sufficient “punishment” for deliberately mowing down a human being with your car.

I’m sure if someone had just contacted the Sensible Sentencing Trust they’d have been more than happy to excuse the act on the basis of the terrible frustration he felt.

Anyway, he clearly felt threatened, because the man he ran down “might have been carrying a weapon”.  After all, he could clearly see the man was Asian, and they’re all ninjas, you know.

Here’s the thing:  this kind of attitude, displayed by our judiciary and even our most fervent hang-’em-high proponents, is fucking dangerous.  It’s like LudditeJourno said of the efforts in Whanganui to stop Stuart Murray Wilson being paroled there:

People of Whanganui – you already have rapists living there.  I’m sorry, but you do.  It’s just that they don’t look like our imaginary rapist, they are not quite “beastly” enough, they are “good, kind loving family men” and/or “pillars of the community.”

When we say, oh, the poor little rich man, he’s such a contributor to the community, he’s got a spotless record, he really showed remorse, honest he did – all we are doing is setting ourselves up to let murderers and rapists and child molesters walk free.

You think Graham Capill would have gotten away with abusing as many children as he did if people didn’t assume, why, he’s a religious ex-police prosecutor, that makes him A Good Man!  You think BTK would have killed 10 people before being caught (largely due to his own ego) if he weren’t a Good Church Man?  John Wayne Gacy was head of his local chamber of commerce!  And a kid’s birthday clown!

Seriously, people.  Use your brains, stop assuming that if someone joins the Rotary his behaviour must be above reproach.  Stop assuming that if someone from a privileged background has a “clean record” that means he’s never done anything bad before.  To quote the great Terry Pratchett:  “I’ve got ten years’ good conduct!”  “No, that’s ten years’ Not Found Out.”